Why self-doubt gets louder when something matters — and why you don’t have to wait for confidence before you act There are some things in life we genuinely don’t know the answer to. And then there are the things we sort of know the answer to… …but have managed to hold approximately 47 internal meetings about anyway. You want to apply for the job. Send the email. Start the business. Ask the question. Set the boundary. Go somewhere new. Put yourself forward. Try the class. Make

There can be a strange moment in adulthood when you realise you're not entirely sure what you enjoy anymore. Not what the family enjoys. Not what needs doing around the house. Not what fits around work. Not what you should be doing. What you enjoy. For years, life can become a collection of roles and responsibilities. Work, relationships, family, animals, appointments, housework, finances and that mysteriously self-replenishing pile of washing. We become very good at asking,

What Will People Think? When Fear of Judgement Starts Running Your Life Have you ever nearly done something and then stopped because one little thought crept in? “What will people think?” Maybe you wanted to wear something different. Post a photo. Speak up in a meeting. Walk into a gym on your own. Start something new. Say no to somebody. Change direction in your life. Or perhaps you typed something out for social media, stared at it for ten minutes, edited it approximately 4

Why Is It So Hard to Switch Off? The Psychology of Rest and Reiki Have you ever finally sat down after a long day, only to realise that your body has stopped but your mind hasn't? You're on the sofa, the jobs are mostly done, nobody needs anything from you for five minutes, and technically this should be the moment you relax. Except you're thinking about tomorrow. The message you forgot to reply to. Something you said three days ago. The washing. Work. Whether you're doing en

When Life Looks Fine but Something Still Feels Missing Have you ever caught yourself thinking: "I don't know what's wrong with me... I have so much to be grateful for, but something still doesn't feel right." If you have, you're certainly not alone. It's a feeling many people experience, yet very few talk about openly. From the outside, life may appear to be going well. You might have a stable job, people who care about you, a home, a family, or goals you've worked incredibly

Have you ever reached the end of the day and wondered where your energy went? You haven't necessarily done anything extraordinary. You may have gone to work, replied to messages, looked after your family, walked the dog, cooked dinner and ticked a few things off your to-do list. Yet somehow you still feel completely drained. If that sounds familiar, you're far from alone. Many people assume exhaustion only comes from doing too much physically, but often it's our minds that be

Have you ever climbed into bed after a long day, ready to sleep, only for your mind to decide now is the perfect time to replay every conversation you've had, analyse every decision you've made and worry about things that haven't even happened yet? It's exhausting. Many of us believe we're simply "overthinkers" or that something is wrong with us because we can't seem to switch our thoughts off. The truth is often much kinder than that. Our brains are designed to protect us. T

There comes a point where you realise you've become an expert at looking after everyone else. You're the one people call when they need support. You remember birthdays. You check everyone got home safely. You say yes when you're exhausted because you don't want to let anyone down. And yet, when someone asks how you're doing, you pause. Because somewhere along the way, you've forgotten to ask yourself the same question. If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. One of the mos

Have you ever climbed into bed, exhausted after a long day, only for your mind to suddenly come alive? You replay conversations from earlier. Wonder if you said the wrong thing. Think about tomorrow's to-do list. Start imagining everything that could go wrong. Before you know it, you're lying there feeling wide awake, wishing your brain would just be quiet. If that sounds familiar, you're far from alone. Many of the women I speak to tell me they feel like they're constantly t

By Naomi, BSc (Hons) Psychology | Level 7 Life Coach Have you ever found yourself thinking... "I'll apply for that job when I feel more confident." "I'll start my own business when I know more." "I'll ask for the promotion when I feel ready." "I'll finally make that change when I stop doubting myself." Or maybe you've been telling yourself... "Now just isn't the right time." If any of those thoughts sound familiar, I want you to know something... You're not lazy. You're not l